Dear Friends,
I know it might seem strange to some but I feel very connected with all of you, my lovely blog friends. If you think about it, it makes sense. I've shared holidays, birthdays and anniversaries with you. I've experienced a pregnancy and child birth with you. You supported me after the birth of Milena and Gustavo and you transitioned with me as I became a working mom. You've been "with" me through quite a few big moments in my life. Today, I hope that your support will once again be there as I share with you another transition in my life.
Rick and I have decided that at this point in our lives, we will be stronger and happier apart than we are together. There is no anger. No resentment. Neither one of us has wronged the other. This is simply a case of 2 people who over the years have grown apart. Since this decision was made, Rick and I have had many conversations about how things will look in our new lives. We have agreed on just about everything, most importantly that this be the smoothest transition possible for Skyler and Savannah. We both feel a great deal of sadness knowing that this decision is by far hardest for the girls. I am so very proud of how the girls have handled things thus far and I feel extremely confident that they will soon learn that life is still very good...and very happy. My hope is that they will see that 2 happy parents in different homes creates a better life than 2 unhappy parents in the same home.
How am I feeling? I feel excited, anxious, scared and hopeful. I am ready for the next steps and I look forward to creating the absolute happiest life possible for my family and myself. It's new territory for all of us and that always produces some anxiety but I am 100% certain that we will ALL come out on the other side stronger, wiser, healthier and happier.
We would certainly appreciate all of the positive energy you can send our way. I can't thank you enough for always being there for us.
Much love,
Jeni
best wishes to you, Miss Jeni! I hope things continue to be as stress free as possible with the transition.
ReplyDeleteWow...Very sorry you are going through this...but Im glad its civil and that you are working it out...Maddie has a letter to send off to Skylar this week!
ReplyDeleteSending you strength, love and light through this transition. Wishing you both happiness and open hearts. The power to parent in the best environment for yourselves and your children.
ReplyDeleteHugs, Aleksandra.
Prayers that you find your happiness again.It is great you are separating before there is any anger or less productive feelings. Best of luck in your new adventure in life.
ReplyDeleteSending TONS of positive thoughts your way! You guys are handling this in the best way possible and that will be make all the difference for your girls.. <3<3
ReplyDeleteHugs and strength coming your way for a stress free and fun life moving forward :) You know I'm there for you and the girls. Always. :)
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear ever that a marriage has ended. There are sure to be some ups and downs, but it seems that the two of you are going about things in a wonderful way- full of respect and love for each other. If you ever want to chat, I am here. I will be saying many prayers for your new journey and sending you many hugs and lots of love.
ReplyDeleteOne door closes. Another opens. I applaud both of you for having the courage and vision of seeing other possibilities for yourselves and your children. BRAVO. I'm very proud of both of you. Smartly navigated, this could be win-win for everyone involved.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry your marriage is ending. It sounds like you are setting a good example for your girls on how to handle tough life changes.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry its ending, but glad to hear that you guys are working through it in a civil way, that will make all the difference for the girls. Good for you guys putting them and their feelings first. Best of luck in your future!
ReplyDeleteThe number one thing I hate about divorce is how it typically ends in a battle against spouses to prove to their children that the other parent is a monster. This is SO damaging for the kids. I'm sorry to hear that you guys do not see a future together, but I'm really happy to see how you seem to be going about things. If you two can continue to have the mindset of ending things peacefully and only with the best intentions for all parties; it will be the healthiest way for all of you to go through this. Wishing you the strength and courage to keep moving forward and finding what you need in life.
ReplyDeleteIf you only get back half of the good energy you send out into the world, you will be overwhelmed by the amount. I'm very sorry to hear the news and send you our best wishes.
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Jenni i beleive you have to make yourself happy, if you cant work it out then you have to do whats healthy for you and the family. I know i am not the worlds love doctor, but i feel at times in our lives people like to give up. i know nothing of you dont know anything of your relationship. Like I said the key is your health, being in a unhappy realtionship can be bad on your inner peace and self esteem. Be happy do what makes you happy and your shildren thats what matters
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry your family is having to travel this inevitably stressful road, but I am glad you are making a decision to be happy. I never realized how generally unhappy I was in my first marriage until I met my current husband. I had always considered myself a generally cheerful person, but I never knew how beautiful life could be until I met him. So it makes me sad when I see others settling for less than perfect. I'm wishing you your happily ever after ASAP.
ReplyDeleteJenni, I'm sorry to hear about this but it sounds like you are both mature about the decision and respectful of each other and that will make for a relatively easy separation. Glad to know your kids are doing well with it and it sounds like things will be fine in the end.
ReplyDeleteVery sorry to read this, but I can't agree with you more that "My hope is that they will see that 2 happy parents in different homes creates a better life than 2 unhappy parents in the same home." You never know how unhappy you are until you find true happiness. I wish you nothing but the best and a happy future. You are a wonderful person and deserve good things!! Good luck!
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