A Post By Savannah

Because we like to keep things  COMPLETELY EQUAL AND FAIR in our household, Savannah wanted to share her memories of our surrogacy journey.  If you missed Skyler's story, you can find it here.

Again, this post was written, typed and published by Savannah herself.  I have included a translation for those who may not speak 7 year old.

My mom was doing ciragessy for two guys named Gorge and Farid. She woke me up and shode me the pregnisy test and it said yes. I was so excided my mom shode me hoe Gorge and Farid wer. She tolde me what ciragssy was. I was exided for my mom. I wonderd if it was a girl a boy or both I thot it was a girl my dad thote it was a boy my sister thote it was both and my mom said both but it was.....BOTH! We wer exuded we hade a dinner party and thats how we new what the babbys wer I was exuded I was about to go to bed my mom,s water brock I was so exuded we wadded for soumwoun to pick her up. My ant picked her up then she whent to the hospital the next day we wer deriving to the hospital and on the way we saw a Safway we got her flowers and then we whent to the hospital. My  mom was in there for a few days then she came home. So we got to see milly and Guss for a week.

***My mom was doing surrogacy for two guys named George and Farid.  She woke me up and showed me the pregnancy test and it said yes.  I was so excited.  My mom showed me who George and Farid were.  She told me what surrogacy was.  I was excited for my mom.  I wondered if it was a girl, a boy, or both.  I thought it was a girl.  My dad thought it was a boy.  My sister thought it was both and my mom said it was both.  But it was...BOTH!  We were excited.  We had a dinner party and that's how we knew what the babies were.  I was excited.  I was about to go to bed.  My mom's water broke.  I was so excited.  We waited for someone to pick her up.  My aunt picked her up.  Then she went to the hospital.  The next day, we were driving to the hospital and on the way, we saw a Safeway.  We got her flowers and then we went to the hospital.  My mom was in there for a few days, then she came home.  So we got to see Millie and Gus for a week.

A Post By Skyler -

I'm sure you have all read my most recent Guest Post about how my children responded to our surrogacy journey.  What better follow up to that post than a post from the kids themselves? What do my children remember about our journey?  What moments stand out in their minds?  How do they feel about the process?  I hope you enjoy this post - written, edited, typed and published by Skyler, now 11 years old, sharing with you her memories of our surrogacy journey last year.


My Journey

   When my mom explained to me and told me she was doing surrogacy I thought that my mom had a heart as big as the sun. When she was finished talking to me about it I started crying, and I remember her saying, ''Are those tears of joy or tears of sadness?''
I  said, ''I just can't believe that you would do something that huge.''

I just kept thinking babies are a part of someone's family, and family is the most important thing in my life. So I thought that this isn't just a gift, it's a huge piece of someone's heart. I  new that from the start I was on board with my mom 100%. I wanted to help my mom with anything that happened along the way.

   When my mom said that she got matched I raced to the computer. I saw two guys on the screen and I couldn't help to smile. Words couldn't explain the feelings that I truly felt. I wanted to meet them as soon as possible.
   When they finally came, I new they were the sweetest guys on the face of this planet. We went out to dinner and shared our likes and dislikes. I looked around the table and I saw Farid, George, my mom, my dad, my sister, and then I got to myself and I thought I know that now we are all a huge family and about to get bigger.
   When my mom went to New York to do her transfer I sent her many good vibes, and I new she got them. George wanted a boy and Farid wanted a girl.
   When my mom got back everything was normal until the day I saw a plus sign on a pregnancy test. I looked at my mom. I was so happy words couldn't come out. My mom is pregnant, I know many kids say that, but I'm one of the few that get to say my mom is pregnant, but its not my brother or sister.
   A few weeks pass and my mom feels a little scared. Like if something happened or happens to someone else's babies. She felt like she would let them down. So I tried to cheer her up and said,''You are to good of a person, and they are to good of people.'' She started to feel better.

  Then she started getting bigger and BIGGER.  We found out that my mom was going to have twins, and we were ecstatic. George and Farid came for a second time and gave me and my sister bracelets. I wear it all the time.
   A couple months later and we found out one was a boy and was a girl. Both guys got what they desired and they were happy, that meant the world to me.

   My mom let me go to one of her ultra sounds and I sat in the corner and shed a couple tears. That was the most touching moment of my life.
   Then one day I was down stairs and my dad looked over the edge and said''Skyler come here.'' I came upstairs and my dad told me that my mom's water broke. My mom was nervous because the guys weren't in town quite yet.
   She went to the hospital and the guys got there right in the nick of time. I was thinking about my mom the whole time.
   The babies were born and I was so exited to see her. We went to the hospital and sat down next to my mom. Milena came rolling in and I got to hold her. The next day I got to hold Gus.All these thoughts were racing in my head. I was so happy. Thats all I can say. These guys will be great parents.

   My journey was different then my moms but I love that whole family as much as I love mine. Now we are one big happy family.

The Kids Are Alright

Almost every surrogate has one thing in common.  We have all had a child of our own before.  We have been pregnant with and delivered babies that we do get to bring home from the hospital.  Babies that we love, feed, clothe, bathe, cuddle and diaper; and before we know it, they’re not really babies anymore.  They’re children.  Children who at some point in their lives learn that their Mommy is going to be pregnant with a baby that won’t be coming home to live with them.  It begs the question - how do the children of surrogates cope with a surrogacy journey?  

READ MORE....

Read the blog post I wrote that describes the surrogacy experience 

of my own children, Skyler and Savannah.

One Thousand Words

Recently I was invited to write a guest blog post for Circle Surrogacy.  Guest blogging is an opportunity that I have been longing for.  One that excited and terrified me at the same time.  You see, I'm comfortable writing for all of you.  I feel like I know you...like you know me.  To put a piece of writing out there for a whole new group of potential readers is just a wee bit scary for me.  What exactly should I write about?  Should it be serious?  Funny?  Heart warming? How long should it be?  Instead of over-thinking it, I just started to write.  The final result was a journey - from transfer to delivery - in just under 1000 words. Our journey was worth far more than 1000 words, but this was an opportunity to provide a glimpse into the world I know and love.  The world of surrogacy.

I want the whole world to see what an amazing thing surrogacy is.  People need to know how many families are created each and every day thanks to surrogacy.  The more we share our amazing stories, the more we help to open the eyes of all of those people who either don't know about surrogacy, or have a negative view of it.  My hope, my dream, my goal is to shed some light on the beauty of surrogacy.  One person at a time.  One blog post at a time.

Chalk up one more fear conquered.  

Here it is folks.  My very first (hopefully of many) guest blog post.

The Journey of a Lifetime