Thursday, December 30, 2010

And the Common Denominator Is...

So, I had a thought.  I know... scary! :)

This week, as it was announced that Elton John and his partner David Furnish had welcomed their baby boy into this world, I felt so happy for them.  I saw it on Twitter first and was excited to read the article.  Although the article revealed just the basics, the comments were what I found interesting.  Basically, 15 minutes after the news was revealed, this particular article had 37 comments.  2 of the comments were negative, claiming that the ONLY successful family is one with a mom and a dad, that the child will have a horrible life and even going as far as to say that the child would never be able to get a job due to the fact that he has gay dads.  I am thrilled to report that the remaining 35 comments were people bashing the 2 negative comments.  There were many arguments that supported gay parenting, but it got me to thinking...what IS the common denominator for a "successful" family?

Now let me start by saying, no family is perfect.  We all know this.  However, there are the families that we know about, read about, hear about, etc. that are clearly "unsuccessful" families. Parents who have truly failed their children.  Some of these parents are moms, some are dads. But, there are a great number of families that have parented children "successfully".  These families look nothing alike. There are children being raised successfully by a mother and a father, single mothers and single fathers, divorced parents who are co-parenting the children, gay moms and gay dads, widows and widowers, foster and adoptive parents, legal guardians, etc.  And what do these successful families all have in common?


You may have noticed that I have titled this blog "Love Makes A Family", but what you may not know is that when I received the profile for my Intended Fathers, they had written a personal letter at the very end that really hit home for me.  In that letter, they discussed their soon-to-be family which will be led by gay fathers.  They stated that they believed that gender didn't play a role in making a family, and that instead, it is LOVE that makes a family. 

That's it. 

Plain and simple.

...And I love that.


  1. You are SO right on! Love can move mountains!

  2. @djsstubbs- Oh Mom- I am so proud of you for finding a way to work Celine Dion lyrics into your comment. You're a true fan! :)

  3. Great post! And I couldn't agree with you more. All you need is LOVE.

  4. It sucks to read horrible comments, especially when they are about your own IPs. After the news went out about my surro babies I refused to read any comments because I would want to hunt them down ;) Those are my guys they are calling horrible or perverts . . . UGH!!! They in fact are a loving couple that are now parents. It is a beautiful thing!

  5. So glad I found your blog - I will be following and LOVE this post!!!

  6. I love that. That is exactly what I told my kids after I showed them pictures of my IF's. They asked if there was a mommy and I told them that every family is different but that love makes a family and as long as there was love then everything would always be okay.



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