Wednesday, August 1, 2012
I am not a very political person. Scratch that. In the past, I was not a very political person. My political beliefs have changed. Drastically.
I don't know if you've heard, but there's a bit of an uproar regarding recent statements made by Chick-fil-A CEO Dan Cathy.
I do not wish to get into a huge debate here, but let me just say this about that. Does Mr. Cathy have a right to say what he did? Sure he does. Is Mr. Cathy realizing that there are just a few other folks out there who also have the right to speak their opinion? I'm thinkin' he's realizing this....a few million sandwiches less at a time. Freedom of speech does not mean that you do not have to endure the ramifications of your words.
Obviously, word of Mr. Cathy's statement has spread like wildfire on Facebook. My personal news feed shows some Chick-fil-A supporters here and there. And then there are the surrogates. Smart, beautiful, full of life and passion surrogates. I love you all. These women are consistently posting about equality. You can feel their passion in each and every post.
They're loud. They're proud.
Many surrogates, myself included, have been given the opportunity to share close relationships with individuals who happen to be gay. We witness first hand the love that these individuals have for one another. We get to share in the moment that they learn they're pregnant. We see the joy on their faces as their pregnancy progresses and we witness first hand the emotion that comes with a baby being born - a family being created. Because of this, we become very defensive about the fact that these people we love so very much are not given the same rights as everyone else.
The same rights.
Everyone is different. Not a single one of us is exactly the same as anyone else. We all have different opinions. We have different beliefs. This is acceptable and good! We ALL have the right to think and believe what we want. But do any of us have the right to determine someone else's basic human rights? Think about it. Someone once felt they had the right to say:
YOU CAN'T VOTE.
YOU CAN'T GO TO SCHOOL THERE.
YOU CAN'T DRINK FROM THAT WATER FOUNTAIN.
YOU CAN'T SIT THERE.
And here we are in Two Thousand Twelve and we're telling people:
YOU CAN'T MARRY THE PERSON YOU LOVE.
I would encourage those who do not believe in equality to take a moment - just one moment - to consider your own personal family. Suppose your child or future grandchild reveals to you that they are gay. Would you change your mind then? Suppose someone made a huge impact on your life...imagine if a gay man or woman saved your life or the life of your child. Could you look that person in the eye and support the fact that they are not given the same rights that you have? We are talking about PEOPLE here...human beings. It's really quite simple.
To all of my fellow surrogates and equal rights supporters: Keep up the good work! I am so proud to know you all! I'm proud of the fact that we are comfortable speaking out for equal rights. We're making a difference! On Facebook...and beyond.
By the way, if you and I are not already connected on Facebook and you'd like to be, let's make that happen! Jeni on Facebook